My best friend and I are freshmen at ABAC. We decided to live together at Lakeside as soon as we were both accepted. It hasn’t even been two weeks and I don’t even recognize the person I see anymore. She was always so responsible, trusting, and level headed. Now she has cheated on her boyfriend who is back home, she has been late to most classes and missed a few and is scrambling to get assignments done. When I try to tell her what she is doing is crazy, she gets defensive. She made out with another guy and hangs out all night with other multiple guys, so it could be more than that. Also, she doesn’t think it is cheating. I can’t bear this anymore, what do I do?
What you are going through is actually something I have experienced a few times. It even comes to the point where the person who was once your best friend becomes hostile towards you; they hang out and flirt with multiple guys without a care in the world as long as the attention is on them. Calling them out on it doesn’t do anything but cause more drama. The first thing I would do if you want to save your friendship is move out. The second thing, which really is most likely the best way to get your point across, is to write out how you feel in a letter. This way you can say everything you need to say and things do not get confused in hostile situations. College is the turning point for students; the first semester can either make you or break you. If all else fails just give her some time to let her act out. I promise she will come around one day and realize what she has done. I hope everything works out for you, I know it is a difficult thing to watch someone ruin their lives.