Ever walk into a room with your friends and still feel invisible?
My friends and roommates are always the skinny ones, the pretty ones, the outgoing ones and the ones to get all the attention from guys. It’s like I don’t exist and no one cares about my happiness.
I haven’t dated in years or even come close to it. How can I be happy and feel like people care about me when a guy hasn’t shown any interest in me since early high school?
I feel more alone the more people I have around me, I don’t know what to do.
I know exactly what you’re going through. I went through it for the first 20 years of my life.
I was used by people who I thought were my friend, I was used and abused by guys who I thought liked me and when I came to college all of my “pretty, skinny” roommates were getting all of the attention.
After yelling and blaming my roommate one night for literally being too pretty, I stopped and gave myself a reality check. God made her that way and no one can change it, I then realized that God made me a certain way and I had to learn what was special about me.
I learned that throwing yourself a pity party won’t get you anywhere. Whether you realize it or not what you think and how you feel about yourself is what guys see in you.
If you are internally negative, and depressed and not happy with yourself on your own terms, then no; you won’t attract any guys. You have to genuinely love yourself from the inside.
What you project is what you get. You have to sit down and be completely honest with yourself; do not live in denial and jealousy.
If you have to make some changes, then make them. The outcome will be rewarding I promise.
You have to let go of your anger towards your friends. The biggest mistake most people make is relying on others to make themselves happy. That’s an equation that will equal disaster.
You’re in college; focus on yourself and the good times. Focus on just making great memories. Once you graduate, real life begins and you will be forced to make life changing decisions.
Enjoy the time you have now and be happy.