My roommate and I are juniors this year and we have been best friends since our freshman year of college. Unfortunately she just found out that she is pregnant from her boyfriend.
Now, I have always told her I would support her no matter what but she doesn’t want to tell her boyfriend at all and she wants an abortion.
What do I do to stop this?
Legally no one could stop her from making that decision considering the courts rule it into her favor since she is the one carrying the baby. However, on a moral standard you could really contribute.
Please understand that your friend is truly terrified. I don’t know what I would even do if I found out I was pregnant. You need to sit with her and come up with a plan on how her life would be okay if she kept the baby, whether the boyfriend hung around or not.
Millions of women have gone to school and had children at the same time. It does take more work, but having a baby in college will not ruin her life, it will make her a stronger person.
She may be surprised at what she can do, don’t let her give up just yet!
Why can’t it just be sex? I just want coffee, conversations, occasional sex, and a cigarette. Why do men want to label me their girlfriend?
An Independent Woman
Dear Independent Woman,
Remember where you live. These boys were raised the Southern, proper way. They were taught one thing: you sleep with a woman, then you treat her like a lady.
Now you will find this to be more common with the younger boys such as freshman, sophomores and a few juniors. However if you get to the more “experienced” college guys, you have more of a chance for no strings attached.
These guys have most likely already been put through the ringer and are about to graduate and just want to have a blast in their final years of college. Other than that, coffee and casual sex will be hard to come by in the South on a regular basis.
I can already hear the boys reading this saying I can never find a girl who just wants to have casual sex, but the truth of the matter is you only get what you attract. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you are always OK with casual sex. A girl who is just looking for a casual encounter can always spot the clingy texters a mile away at the bar.
This is nothing to be ashamed of, just keep doing what makes you happy and be honest with yourself. Otherwise, the independent girls will break your heart. Good luck!